I'll just put this here, because the people it involves are all over Facebook, but not so much on LJ.
So my friend died. Yesterday, I went to the square to Be There For his ex wife, another great friend -the kind you call Family- who never did get over him (we all thought they never should have split up in the first place). And it so happened that two other friends of ours from that time and place were there with her. I hadn't seen either of them for probably 7 or 8 years. It was awesome. Well sad, but very awesome.
During the evening's events, we all decided we were going to get matching commemorative tattoos, for it was working in a tattoo shop that had brought us all together, and the tattoo in question was one that had been tossed around with the intention of getting done, but it never did, and it's nickname became "The Viper Tattoo", and I'm rambling so I'll stop trying to describe things, but it meant a lot to us.
So "T" said, "when are we all going to do this?"
"S" replied, "Tomorrow."
I said, "Tomorrow, wow. Really? Well, I usually take Fridays off anyway. Nevermind it's Jazzfest... OK for sure, tomorrow."
"T" asked, "What time?"
The other "T" said, "Well, I've got this meeting and that other thing, but how about... 2 PM?"
We all said fine; and the other "T" was going to bring his son, who I haven't seen since he was like a week old (He's NINE now).
I asked "S", "Should I call first, or just show up"
She said, "Oh, just show up."
And it was set. I worked WAY late that night, to be able to afford to take off today, and also to bring some of "V"'s favorite things to his impromptu Homegoing party. You never want to go to a person's house empty-handed anyway, right?
So this morning, I got up early and scrambled around collecting things I wanted to bring to the house. I also unpacked and rifled through three boxes I had packed for my upcoming move, in order to find a shot glass from the old tattoo shop, to use to drink the Hennessy (Bleh!) that was his favorite. I picked up his favorite kind of pickles, his favorite candy (sour Skittles), and a 12-pack of Heineken, his favorite beer. I left my house in a hurry to make it to "S"'s place for 2.
And nobody was there.
I waited ten, fifteen, twenty minutes. I texted her, "Hey- I'm outside your house"- no answer.
I got onto Facebook, and messaged her and "T", "Hey, I've got this beer getting hot; where are you guys at?". No answer.
I waited. The neighbor came out and asked if everything was OK.
Then the following text conversation happened:
Me: 12 pack Heiny getting hot out here, where you all at?
She: Sorry we r not home I got the days wrong
Me: Ok... So what should I do?
Me (ten minutes later) OK... So what should I do?
She: I think we r doing it tomorrow
~ I begin to become upset ~
Me: Well I can't take 2 days off this wkend. I have beer, huge jar of pickles, & bunch of Skittles that are hard to carry & I don't eat/drink. Where should I leave em?
Me (fifteen minutes later): Hello? Where, at you house, should I leave these things please? It is very hot out & I'm kind of crying. I'd like to go. Where is safe to leave stuff?
No reply.
The neighbor comes around again, this time concerned, and asks if I've heard anything at all. I tell her the textersation that had just happened. And then I just started crying, very hurt. Today meant a lot to me. It was for "V", and it was for us, to be all together, which never happens anymore, and I was probably being all selfish and silly, but fuck it, I was hurt. And she wouldn't even get back to me to let me know where to put this $40 worth of stuff that I didn't want anymore if we weren't going to do this thing.
And it was not the first time "S" has done shit like this to me. It
was the first time for years, and mea culpa for thinking it would not be the case on this particular event. And I was all butthurt. And then I got angry- why weren't the two "T"s there also, waiting? Why were they not wondering what had happened?
Would she have called them and not me? And if so, then it had not been an accident, nobody had "the days wrong". Would I have been given the shaft like that? It's so hard to think that would be. I remember from years ago, that "S" is notoriously horrible at returning text messages, a thing I had always had a problem with, especially if the texting was not just frivolous chatter but important timely information.
And I'm probably overreacting. But I'm really sad about my friend.
The neighbor offered to keep the heavy bags of beer and snacks for me, and hand them over when "S" and them get home. Bless her heart, she even managed to get me to laugh a little.
I texted: You neighbor Miss "M" has the beer & stuff for when you get home. See ya.
No reply, of course. It's been two hours.
So I walked the block and a half to St. Roch Tavern and started drinking.
Because that's what you're supposed to do.
Tears in a bucket- motherfuck it. Right? At least the Homegoing party in my head was a blast.
And I know that some things don't change.
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