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20 October 2013 @ 11:26 am
Interlude: Mister Peabody, crank up the Way-Back Machine.  
A friend posted the following on her facebook timeline. Being that it is my birthday today, a day famous for soul searching and introspection, I gave a lot of thought to my reply. Now I'm curious what you all might have to say...

"If you had a chance to say something to yourself when you were between the ages of 13-20, what would you tell you? What advice would have been the most deeply helpful to you?

Not like 'don't sleep with that one dude, he has herpes'. Because that's situation specific. What tools would you have armed yourself with to face the world?"

I would tell myself to shut up, quit being such a know-it-all smart ass. Of course, I probably wouldn't listen. I'd tell myself to pay more attention to Math. To not let my mom bother me so much; cause you will find out in ten years that she is a sad, crazy person who should have your pity, not your anger. So don't base your later relationships on her model, nor your need for acceptance or love from her lack. Don't smoke cigarettes, ever. Finish learning Spanish and French.
And (even though this defies the situation-specific parameter of the question), in 1999, DON'T SELL THE HOUSE. DON'T MOVE TO FLORIDA. DON'T. For that matter, don't get married in 1998. You won't really want to. You'll just be letting him talk you into it.
Listen more to the good things that people say to/about you, instead of the bad things; rather than the other way around. The bad might be easier to believe (thanks, mom)... but the good things are more true.
And don't ever stop laughing. Not ever.

They tell me I am:: happyhappy
The Voices are playing:: Haaaa....
ladytwnksfallconsmate on October 20th, 2013 05:43 pm (UTC)
*hugs and hugs* happy birthday, sweetie.

what would i tell myself? it's ok to trust your own opinion. it's ok to drop things and walk away when you're abused (even though i appreciate the self-knowledge that i eventually got from that situation). standing up for yourself is ALWAYS right, temper tantrums are not.

cold fury works better than hot anger. living well IS very good revenge. and quit worrying that the evil ex won't contact his daughter, she eventually turns out beautifully.
The Windward Witch: Yours Trulykellcrow7 on October 21st, 2013 06:12 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I've been working on that cold fury thing. lol
Sheilagh: Stripey Looksheilagh on October 20th, 2013 06:53 pm (UTC)
happy birthday! What an interesting thought exercise.

oddly, in a bad fit, I at 13 had a conversation with my then-future self (probably around age 26) ... talked the 13 year old me out of some totally situational stupidity. Hmmmm. What would that 26 year old tell ME, now?
The Windward Witch: Yours Trulykellcrow7 on October 21st, 2013 06:11 pm (UTC)
Huh. That's a good one. What would the 26-year-old me tell the 46 year old one? Probably to get out of the damned house more, lol. Go get laid. Move out of that stupid, tiny apartment.
I should probably listen to her. ;)